Faith, Family and Motherhood
4 Keys to Being The Graceful Momma
When life gets messy breath and receive God’s grace.
`Haven’t we all been there before? Feeling overwhelmed, short on time, and trying so hard to be that
graceful Momma. I know there have been times when I failed miserably, allowed myself to lose all self –
control, and my peace in the process. I can recall feeling so disappointed in myself from acting like
a screaming lion that almost bit their heads off to a cussing sailor! Come on y’all Momma’s out there! I
know you know what I’m talking about. This is where my 4 keys to begin a graceful momma come in.
Being a momma can be hard especially if we rely on our own strength.
Let’s be real! Being a mom is one of the most important jobs we will ever have, and it doesn’t always look
like that Hallmark picture in your head! You know the one where everything is so organized, nice clothes,
the perfect home, and happy toddlers. Even though being a Momma can be hard at times, and oh so
messy! It’s so worth the reward on their little faces. To see them smile, giggle, and give Mom lots of sweet
kisses. These are some of the best moments in our lives. God blessed us moms to be strengthened by his
word and to help shape the next generation. The impact starts at home. How special, and powerful is that.
My husband helped me to realize this not long ago. How God was fulfilling my dream that he had placed
on the inside of my heart. I always had a dream of being important and having the ability to impact
people by changing lives and leaving a mark in the world. Mommas this is your chance to shine! It
matters if you lose control, how you might treat your child, and how you raise them. It starts in our own
homes. I hope to encourage you through these 4 keys of wisdom for Being the Graceful Momma. This is
what my day looked like a few days ago.
As I went through my day on Thursday afternoon time quickly slipped away. I found myself rushing to
pull everything together in the last hour before leaving for my doctor’s appointment. Of course,
when you are short on time everything that can, will try to go wrong. I quickly became discouraged when
I eyed the overview of each room. The kitchen was a disaster! Toddlers are messy eaters, and the
cornflakes snack had found its way to the floor. Corn flakes scattered throughout the kitchen. The living
room lost its organization that never lasts long. The toys from the toy bin were scattered over the larger
off-white rug in my living area. The rooms looked like a tornado hit it. My daughter’s room is always the
one that looks completely trashed with toys like someone had a party.
In that moment you begin to feel as if you failed. Nothing ever stays organized, and I can never
understand why my home doesn’t look like it’s from HGTV lol. This is where grace comes in to rescue you.
It’s ok for things not to be perfect. It’s lived in, laughed in, and joy dwells. God see’s you Momma, and he
knows all the sacrifices you make! Don’t set the bar too high but serve with excellency of heart. As long
as your kids are clothed, and happy that’s all that matters. The schedule doesn’t have to be preschool
approved. We always try to fit so much into our schedules as busy momma’s. All the while trying to get
out the door I ended up doing a last minute clean up.
Did I forget to mention that I had to clean my daughter up from a poop accident. She starts playing or
watching too many cartoons on the phone, and suddenly going to the bathroom isn’t a priority. Toddlers
get distracted with all the excitement and well accidents do happen. Then I found myself changing my
son’s diaper, and applying butt paste to both. As we worked everything in to try and get out the door
soon.
In that moment it might not be glamorous, but I’ve come to realize that life is made up of a million little
moments. These are what matters most. It’s the process or the journey before getting to that large
moment. Don’t live jumping from one large steppingstone to another. It’s the smaller moments that bring
so much joy. If you’re always looking for the next big thing. You’ll miss the little things in front of you.
Next, I will share with you my keys to being that Graceful Momma!
- A whole lot of Jesus!
Through personal experience I’ve found that it truly matters how you start your day, and how it ends. It
sets the stage for the entire day. I’ve found that its better with Jesus. Get up and purposely schedule time
with him. He’s waiting to hear from you! He cares about the smallest detail. That’s what I have come to
learn. Let Jesus take the wheel! So, to speak. Starve the flesh and feed the spirit! If you never feed the
spirit man, he won’t be strong enough to prevail. If you find like me, most of the time one reading a day
isn’t enough, to get through the day. I find I start becoming spiritually weak if I don’t feed on that word a
few more times throughout my day. Read a quick devo at lunch, and maybe hold a quick bible study with
your kids and family to close out the day! Ending with a goodnight prayer, and gratitude for the day.
2. Self Control
I’ve learned to take a step back, if you do lose all self-control, until you are calm before discipling or
making decisions. Words are powerful, and they can’t be removed from the mind once recorded. Without
self-control there is no patience. 2nd Peter 1:6 NLT says it this way ” And knowledge with self-control, and
self-control with patient endurance, and patient endurance with godliness.” The word is my medicine! It
produces the fruit of the spirit. Kindness, gentleness, Patience, and self-control. You don’t want to see me
without my daily dose of Jesus. He’s, my strength. I wasn’t always this way but with His help change is
possible. In Proverbs 4:20-22 it says “My son attend to my words; incline thine ear unto my sayings. Let
them not depart from thine eyes; keep them in the midst of thine heart. For they are life unto those that
find them and health to all their flesh.”
3. Patience
More times than not things go well when we have just a little more patience. Toddlers are slow moving at
times, and easily distracted. Trying to force a situation to happen faster or the way you want it doesn’t
always go well. Most times it ends in a tantrum. I have noticed that if I speak and ask something of my
children, they respond better than if I had screamed or yelled at them. I’d rather speak than to yell, and
produce fear in them, and have them in tears if I can help it; avoiding the tantrum, anger and guilt you’d
feel if you had handled it differently. I’ve been there and am still learning every day. James 1:3-4 “Let
patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect lacking nothing.”
4. Coffee, or a Monster
Sometimes it takes a whole lot of coffee, and Jesus to jump start the day! lol. Whatever gets you in that
happy state. Do it! I’ve found I’m more empowered throughout my day if I get up start my day with Jesus
and have a little me time. I’m so much more refreshed. Read your daily dose of Jesus while sipping on
your coffee or energy drink whichever suits your fancy. Remember you don’t want to be the Monster! Ha
Ha. Sometimes for me it’s a cup of Joe half calf or an all-natural energy stick that you mix in your water.
Then off to something that aides in self-care like an early exercise on the treadmill or exercise video to a
favorite book. Whatever might be your jam or routine that you can fit in for that morning. You will feel so
much better and more accomplished to care for your kids and conqueror the day.
You got this Mama! And don’t get upset if you don’t finish the routine. I’ve done this so many times. It’s
ok. Give yourself a pat on the back for what you did accomplish, and just find a way to incorporate the
rest with your kids or during nap time. We get so wrapped up in housework, chores, errands, and forget
how mind freeing a little self-care can be. I hope these points will help you discover the power of the
word, daily grace, self-care and becoming that graceful Mamma.
until next time xoxo
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